SUCCESS
We listened to the first track this morning…it is REALLY good! I can open up with Roger easily; but it is very difficult for him. It was really good for him to do this. He cried when he answered 2 of the questions.
He was asked “What is the best gift you’ve ever received?” He cried and immediately said, “The 3 wonderful children you gave me.” When he composed himself he said, “Thank you.”
Later, he was asked “What is your favorite way to spend a Sunday afternoon?” He said, ‘with you, going out to dinner, or Starbucks, or hiking…”, then he started crying again. I asked him if he knew why he was crying and once he composed himself again, he said, “Because we haven’t done that in a really long time.”
Later in the process on a different track the question was asked, “Where do you feel the safest?” “Roger” answered quickly, “With you.” When the question came up for me to answer, “Roger” answered out for me, “In my arms of course!” But I honestly responded, “I don’t feel safe there.” He had no response.
It was hard for me to share so honestly but I knew I needed to. It hurt me some that he didn’t seem to respond to such a heartfelt and painful (my pain) statement, but I let it go. When he left for work, he kissed and hugged me goodbye. Then he came a second time just before going out the door and kissed and hugged me again. He looked me in the eyes and said, “I’m sorry you don’t feel safe in my arms…but we’re working on it.” That was a huge step for him to acknowledge my hurt. |
